From me to you on getting REJECTED


The frustrating struggle of finding your child the right school in Philadelphia is about to hit its peak. You, my friends, are about to find out if your precious baby has been rejected, accepted, wait-listed, or number 324 in the ICS school lottery.

I get it I have been there. I am still confused as to how The Philadelphia School (TPS) did not accept Henry. I really thought we killed that interview. I looked like I got hit with the J. Crew stick, my ex-husband and I even demonstrated how well we co-parent together… like an ABC Family sitcom… I mean come on! Henry was awesome at his playdate, he didn’t even flinch when we left him. Alas, they were sorry to say at this time Henry would not be accepted to TPS. When I tell this story I always follow it up with the fact that TPS had so many sibling preference spots that year to fill… that is why he didn’t get in. Even thought I know that statement is just to make myself feel better. I have no idea what I could have done better in that interview or all those open houses we sat through.

However Friends Select we did get accepted but without financial aid, so that was like dangling a big giant carrot in front of us. I admit it, I got pretty hung up on that pool and rooftop field – I got totally sucked in by all the sports glamour. Plus, when we were on the tour I could not figure out if Mandarin was the right language for Henry to take… I mean I was in deep.

As for Independence Charter School (ICS) we literally were number 324. I never even toured the school or went to anything they had there. I just knew we needed to throw our hat in the ring. By the way, the families that do make it into ICS are awesome to watch because they are so excited but also so terrified to show it because they know pretty much everyone around them just got rejected. (We love you Esme and Ashir).

H and O with me at SPSThe truth is you can jump though all the hoops and still not get invited to the circus. That is why I always encourage everyone to apply to as many schools as possible.
I really took the rejections to heart too. It felt like someone was telling our family that we were not good enough, ugh. And another thing, if you have been rejected or wait-listed, good luck getting someone on the phone or getting admissions to return an email. The smiling, courting, and showing off is over and shit just got real – I just want to prepare you.

Henry first day with balloonIn the end, Henry did get accepted to St. Peter’s School. The same St. Peter’s School that was never on my list until we went to their open house. The same St. Peter’s School that was last on my list even when I did add it. The same St. Peter’s School that is now filled with some of my favorite people, kids and teachers. The same St. Peter’s School that has done nothing but love my boys while giving my family an amazing community.

I’m not going to sit here and say I don’t dream about the Friend’s Select pool, because I do. But I also thank my lucky stars that I get to drop Henry (and soon Ollie) off at a school that I know they are lucky and happy to be involved with.

If you do get rejected – I still think you’re awesome and so do your kids – so don’t take it so hard. But do go rub up against your friends that win the ICS school lottery, because they are made of magic 😉

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